I love her, I always will.  I try to figure out
what God wants out of this relationship.  I know to love unconditionally
is the greatest gift of all,  but every time I am at my mother's house
I feel resentment and pain...

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This form was submitted:  Dec 04 2007 / 06:35:07
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Since I was little I remember trying to clean the dining
room table as part of my chores.  There was always frustration because mom
would panic if she didn't know where we put things.  Dad passed away
last year, he was hit by a semi on his way to work.  Mom has a beautiful
new home now to herself. 

I cleaned the house and put boxes of papers
in closets, out of sight, for Thanksgiving.  It seems that any task
that has to do with cleaning and preparing for guests gives my mom
anxiety, so therefore us daughters do most of the work for her. 

There are 3
of us girls, we are all in our 30's.  I don't believe any of us ever had
a good relationship with our mother as much as we'd like to have one.
  She did the test off of Oprah's site to see if she was a hoarder, and
she said she was a "collecter".  I really don't care what she is, it
hurts.  I personaly feel abandoned to some degree.  I feel like I have a
mother figure who is just a kid herself trying to find importance
through information.  Whether she cuts a clipping from the newspaper or
has the bulletin from church, every piece has now became a significant
part of her completeness.  She is easily offended when I look at her
mess, and ask "why?"  She tells me it is not my house and to mind my own
business. 

She can't hold a normal conversation because of her busy
brain defending the hoard of information through the papers from the last
30 years and more.  I love her, I always will.  I try to figure out
what God wants out of this relationship.  I know to love unconditionally
is the greatest gift of all,  but every time I am at my mother's house
I feel resentment and pain.