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Growing Up Stories: Story from a daughter living with hoarding mother 
Growing Up COH and Adult COH Experiences

My mother is a compulsive hoarder, as I sit here and type
this, I am next to a stack of magazines, 3 feet high. This is a clean day
for us. We live in a house bigger than we need for living, but...



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Saturday, April 26th, 2008 at 10:10 PM.


Relationship : Mother
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Message :

My mother is a compulsive hoarder, as I sit here and type
this, I am next to a stack of magazines, 3 feet high. This is a clean day
for us. We live in a house bigger than we need for living, but we don't
have enough living space anymore.

Half of the main floor is literally
a dump, my mom will collect things and just tell us to "throw them on
the pile" and the pile is our entire living room and dining room, 4 feet
high. We can no longer even get a foot in these rooms. My kitchen is a
mess, you can barely use it to make food, and the table is so covered
in stuff that we have not eaten at it in years.

The majority of her
"collection" is old food containers, like empty ice cream tubs, or egg
cartons, empty milk bags, cake boxes, and so on and so on. She claims that
she has plans to use everything for either storage or crafts, but
since we have been at this house (14 years) she has not once completed a
craft project, or organized herself. The entire basement is useless, we
can get to the bottom of the stairs to our second fridge, and that is
it, you can't walk anywhere else.

We have a large chest freezer next to
the fridge, but it is so covered in stuff, that we have not had access
to it in over 6 years. The freezer is still on, still filled with food.
The office is filled with old clothes that no longer fit us, or anyone
we know, or their children. She wants to use the fabric to make quilts
and what not, but she can't have a sewing machine for more than a month
before breaking it.

I once tried to do a little cleaning for myself,
but I got in so much trouble for 30 minutes of cleaning, because
apparently I moved things so she can no longer find anything (which she
couldn't before). She doesn't even try to clean, yet she spends the majority
of her day watching home organization/improvement/design shows. I can't
stand to live here anymore, but I am still a student, and my income is
not sizable enough to move out. Everyday I go insane over the state of
our house. What have I done to deserve this?


Posted on Saturday, April 26, 2008 @ 22:00:53 ICT by Donna
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Re: Story from a daughter living with hoarding mother (Score: 1)
by thisgirl on Monday, April 28, 2008 @ 22:16:36 ICT
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My heart goes out to you. As I read this, I think I could have written it myself. I lived at home until I finished college, although I don't know how. I now live 600 miles away, and even though I love my mother with all my heart, going home makes me miserable. I'm not sure when exactly it happened, but at some point during my childhood, the house became unlivable. I stopped having friends over. Just being surrounded by all the junk can send a person into a depression that seems impossible to climb out of, which explains why my mother is always so miserable.

I want to help her, but I get so frustrated when she seems unwilling to help herself. I understand it's a compulsion, and I try to be sensitive to that. But sometimes, you just want to shake a person and scream, "Stop with the blaming! YOU are doing this to yourself."
I don't know if this has helped. But know that you are not alone in this. I'm sure you'll get out of there soon. And I can tell you, freedom is sweet!




Re: Story from a daughter living with hoarding mother (Score: 1)
by lssluvsjns on Monday, August 18, 2008 @ 07:34:48 ICT
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This is my story but you have written it so much better. I'm 20 and in college and live in a clutter filled house with my mother. I also try to clean it and I get yelled at or she's stays mad at me for days sometimes. The only room in the house that is liveable is my own. I let myself get so angry at my mother sometimes when I look around and see all these piles of what I call "junk" or "crap". You are not alone. One day you will be out of this crap and so will I.




 
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