I can vent here because I can remain anonymous and
she doesn't use the Internet.  There are clothes in baskets everywhere.
  We can't have people over...

Below is the result of your feedback form. It was submitted on Monday,
April 28th, 2008 at 11:27 PM.


Relationship : Son
Source : Dr. Phil
Message : I saw this on "Dr. Phil"

I have to live at home because I have an incurable medical condition,
so I cannot live alone.  In recent years, the house has gotten messy.
  My mother has used some similar excuses to Adonna Austin's for letting
this get out of hand.  I can't clean because I have trouble getting up
and down because of my weight.  She says she's tired after working at an
inner-city school. She says she'll get somebody over.  She won't let
me call maids or a cleaning service.  She says she can't afford it.  She
says she has to got through everything.  There's usually leftovers
that have to go in the trash when there's people in the third world who
eat from the dump. 

I can vent here because I can remain anonymous and
she doesn't use the Internet.  There are clothes in baskets everywhere.
  We can't have people over.  Even the garage is filled to the brim with
my sister's stuff.  I think that time would heal it, but it's no
different this year than last year.  I have nowhere else to go.  I sometimes
feel like committing arson just to get rid of everything.  I would just
take out what's worth keeping.  Of course, that would make it worse.
  I literally have thrown things out the window!  I just have to get it
later because it's outside.

My mother never had to do chores growing up.  She grew up in a
different time.  My grandma did all the cleaning when she was well.  We never
did many chores growing up.  It's hard to break the cycle.  Even my
sister's kids have trouble tidying up sometimes.
I can't do this anymore. I try giving ultimatums, but they get glossed
over. 

I am giving her by the end of the year or I will burn it all.
  Gaol would be neater than my house.  I'd rather live in a "home".  It's
time for us to wake up and buckle down.