My other sister doesn’t like to recognize the fact that
my mother has an illness and so prefers to have a blind eye.

My mother
also likes to make me feel inadequate, often blaming my lack of help
for the situation in which we live in no matter what I do to help. She
will also use other lines to make me feel as if it my fault which makes
me feel even worse.

Because my eldest sister refuses to except the
problem or help me and my other sister. She has essentially become my
mothers “favourite” as she doesn’t touch her stuff or interfere...

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My mother is a hoarder and has been for many years. She was
always a cluttery person but my father died when I was 6 and after this
is spiraled out of control as he was not there to control it.

This mental illness has also only just come to light but knowing that I was not
alone and that there was actually a name to my mothers’ problem has
given me hope. I am now 17 and as the youngest of 4 am finding it
increasingly difficult to live with my mother and her illness.

While my sisters were still at home it was still a problem but has worsened now they
are gone as she can fill the room they lived in with yet more stuff.
My eldest sisters’ room had always been a haven but now that she has
moved out even that one room has been taken over by my mum.

I love my mum and don’t want to hurt her but the living conditions that she
forces me to live in cause me to have resentment towards her and so I feel
like I love her less and less due to the problems she has caused me and
  my siblings. It is not only horribly depressing to come home to but
is also extremely embarrassing for me to deal with my friends who quite
understandably ask questions about why they can’t come to my house. I
have confided in a couple of friends but as it is only recently
recognized illness they too don’t know what they can do to help me or
don’t properly understand.

You may just ask why I don’t just throw
things away but my mother can be extremely nasty if she even suspects that I
have chucked something and will go on about the missing “things”
for days, even if she does not know what is missing. My eldest brother
has aspergers and so is not capable of helping me even if he wanted to
and although my eldest sister tries her best to help by taking things
away in secret – she has become the centre of suspicions and hatred
from my mother as she believes she is “filling my mind with her
thoughts” and turning me against her and she also lives far away with limited
hours off work.

My other sister doesn’t like to recognize the fact that
my mother has an illness and so prefers to have a blind eye.

My mother
also likes to make me feel inadequate, often blaming my lack of help
for the situation in which we live in no matter what I do to help. She
will also use other lines to make me feel as if it my fault which makes
me feel even worse.

Because my eldest sister refuses to except the
problem or help me and my other sister. She has essentially become my
mothers “favourite” as she doesn’t touch her stuff or interfere. This
again causes more rifts between my family and recently my eldest sister
had to leave home early because she could not handle an argument she
was having with my mother over it.

Our house has also turned into a state
of disrepair as the house is so cluttered no maintenance can be done,
my heating recently broke but it is too messy for any one to get in to
fix it as well as our washing machine and so I can no longer have clean
  clothes unless I use my brothers.  I don’t want to be taken away or
anything but I don’t know what else to do – I’ve read  about
therapy but my mother does not accept she has a problem and so I am
doubtful she would be willing to go in for it.