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Re: Story from a 16 yr. old (Score: 1)
by LizB ((none)) on Monday, November 26, 2007 @ 15:52:30 ICT
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Hi. I am 35 y.o., a type C (most mild) hoarder, and my mom is a type B (moderate) hoarder. I live with my 67 y.o. mother, and 30 y.o. brother. Are there any group counseling centers in your area, i.e. State Mental Health facilities in your area that may help your mom, and you cope with your problem? Alot of these places have free counseling for those with indigent income status, i.e. may be offered for free. I am taking individual outpatient clinic services myself. I am on two prescriptive meds. Maybe they can help you rationalize, sort out your feelings, and think of a decent, and practical way of solving this problem you have had for awhile. First, we must deliver the idea to ourselves, and route the path to recovery. I thought I may have had a hoarding problem since the 7th grade, but apparently it really has been going on all my life. I am thinking of proposing a plan for my life to 'clean up my act'. But, my life is really so hectic to me, right now. -I am a second bacheloreatte's degree undergraduate student. I will still see my counselor, and get my thoughts in order. In the meantime, I am dreaming of ways and the time we will completely fix, clean, organize, and make useful our hoarding mess.

If you know of a way to find help, go do it. If you have an avenue to propose to do what you want, acheive it. Thank you for being honest with us. It would be nice to hear a positive update! Good Luck.

Re: Story from a 16 yr. old (Score: 1)
by angmari on Tuesday, February 26, 2008 @ 21:38:25 ICT
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Not only is it important for you to tell her how you feel but to maybe show her information on hoarding. She may not realize what kind of problem it can become until she sees some extreme cases and the consequences of this problem. I grew up in this same situation and now am 32 and am dealing with hoarding problems of my own. I am not saying this will happen to you, but growing up in this is not healthy and can have long term emotional damage. I still struggle with this every day and now my children do. The pain and anger is still with me. Your house can get away from you and in that, damage can occur in the house. I'm not trying to scare you but from past experieces of mine, the city can demand you throw stuff away because of clutter city ordinances. And child protection services can be called in because minors live in the house. Please get her more info, from the internet or where ever. This can be a serious problem for every one involved. Your doing the right thing by reaching out for help now. I know I lived in fear growing up because I was afraid people would find out our "secret'. Don't hide behind doors anymore, before you don't have the choice anymore. Show her the stories, the pictures. I hope this helps.