Below is the result of a feedback form. It was submitted on Saturday, September 6th, 2008 at 05:10 AM.


Relationship : my whole family, mom,dad,sister and brothers

Source : thru a google search on clutter which did not capture the issue
Message :

I have been reading on this site all day and at first was feeling obssesive until I read someone who said , ' it is not just about the piles " and then I began to cry.

I am tearful as I write this now. For years they have called me names. like  " neat freak" " snobby" "ocd" "clean freak" etc... according to them I am the one with issues, I" waste things" and have "no appreciation" and I "do not like them" and I"think they are slobs"  I have never said any of those things to them.

 I have always known there was something different about their relationship with things and tried to focus on other matters when talking and visiting with them. But it is the other ways that the dysfunction revelas itself that hurt also.

Only one of my 5 siblings has ever been to my home, my parents never. I am 52 years old and realizing they are never going to come and our family will never be a family and it never was. It is as if I have woken up an orphan who has always been an orphan and who will die an orphan. It helps to know others have been where I am, in a way. In another way it makes me sad that others have known this pain.