Books: For Adult Children: Covert Incest

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Silently Seduced: When Parents Make their Children Partners - Understanding Covert Incest
By Kenneth Adams

Product Description
Did you have a parent whose love for you felt more confining than freeing, more demanding than giving, more instrusive than nurturing? Did you feel trapped in a "psychological marriage" with this parent? If so, you may be a victim of covert incest. Identification of this kind of incest is difficult, since covert incest victimrs often feel idealized and privileged, not violated and abused. In Silently Seduced, Dr. Adams, through illustrative case examples and perceptive insight, provides covert incest victims a framework to understand what happened to them, how their lives and relationships continue to be affected and how to begin the process of recovery.

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The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to do When a Parent's Love Rules Your Life
By Dr. Patricia Love

From the back cover......

Do these "endearments" sound familiar to you?
* "Of all my children I expect the most of you"
Translation: I've selected you to be the one to make my life worth living.
* "You've never caused me a minute of trouble."
Translation: Ignore your own needs, I can't handle them.
* "You're the only one who truly understands me."
Translation: I would be totally alone if it weren't for you.

If so, you may have been a "Chosen Child," seemingly the focus of devoted and loving parents, but in reality a child walking a psychological tightrope - learning early on to dent your own needs to meet the emotional needs of a parent.